Fear stops you from doing things. Robert Kiosaki give acronym to FEAR as “false expectation appearing real” and those four words gives you a doubt of doing things. We are commonly hoping that our expectation is most likely to happen and that paralyze us to take action. We have to take courage to overcome our fear and that will change our expectations. If your expectation is change, you are now having a new hope to believe in, new hope to push you into action and overcome your fear completely.

You can overcome fear by trying.

I’m sharing you a story of how the boy overcomes his fear from kissing. To cut the story short the boy was afraid to kiss his girlfriend because it was the first time. He thought that he might get disappoint when his girlfriend refuse to kiss him back. Fear is always present on your first time and to eliminate that fear you have to try and do something. The boy kiss her girlfriend and finally her girlfriend kiss back. It was a success and the boy kisses her again and again.

Overcome your fear by Facts and studies.

Dealing with our finance, we are afraid to invest our time and money. A careful study and feasibility are needed to overcome your fear. But we will never know if that investment is good or for us if we don’t try.

Overcome Fear by Faith

The best FEAR that you can have is God Fearing. I don’t believe on what is written on the bible is TRUE and that eliminate my fear of false expectations appearing real. Blessing and more blessing when you have this kind of Holy Fear.

Fear is never bad at all. Fear pushes us to learn and be strong. Fear helps us to be humble and safe. Fear is something you have make you grow.

What I want to do now is to apply what I’ve learned from online marketing and at the same time, deal with real estate. I got the idea form Richard Carlson on his “Don’t worry make money – Form a winning partnership.” What this idea can do for me? I don’t know much about selling property but I know someone who is very proficient on making a good deal. Some essence of online marketing is getting more prospects in to your sales. If that person is looking to do this technology, then we can form a winning partnership.

Your partner can cover up your weakness. You and your partner have different functions. When that functions work together, it can create a great result. This is what you call the winning partnership.

We want to become successful but first we must engage with circumstances. We can call it a test that shows who we are as we failed or succeed in the end. A circumstance is a mirror that shows how you react and reveal who you are. That experience will transform to become who you are weather you learn or not. Looking at the mirror don’t change anything, I only shows who you are. What important is to learn from what you see. Being prepared at any given situation can help you handle or solve the problem and sometimes it’s already solved, we just have to pass thru it. The circumstances will reveal if you are really prepared or not.

Attitude can be mold by circumstances. Circumstances is constantly shaping your character, we adjust ourselves when we see us bad or good at the current situations. We can choose what we become and known for who we are.

Self-defeating belief can be overcome by loving and knowing more about your self. This is an inside job, to battle against your negative subconscious mind and never let any of it influence you.

This attitude will discourage you with “you can’t do it attitude.” And influence you by “giving up to soon.” Overcoming your self-defeating belief can move things fast.

Self-defeating belief is like when you first try a roller-coaster ride. A minute before the ride you felt nervous. Being afraid of heights plus feeling nervous is one of your self-defeating beliefs. We over come that feeling as soon as we get over the ride. There are two things that can happen; one is to overcome your fear and to fail experiencing the roller-coaster ride. This story happens to me on our high school field trip at Enchanted Kingdom, Sta. Rosa Laguna. We rush to the space shuttle as we enter the gate. We want to ride the roller-coaster first of all the rides. Some of us back up from the falling line. After the rides you can hear two things, it was great and I will never try it again.

Sometimes we back out or quit even there is so many possibilities that we can. If you really want to succeed in this situation, you must find courage, have faith and inspirations. Your action will move to eliminate your self-defeating beliefs.

Look at the child, who knows nothing, they are not afraid to ask what they want. They will do everything to achieve what they want. It is because they don’t know about defeat and they just pursue what they want. They get two results in the end, fail or succeed. We don’t want to fail again next time so we avoid doing that mistake again. This develops our self defeating belief that we never notice and had this fear as we grew up.

This attitude will not really help you to move on. You’re slow in progress. When you want something to accomplish remove your self-defeating belief out of your way. If you want to pass on the board exam, then review as if is you will never fail. Because if you think you will fail on the exam then your review is just a waste of time, but then if you believe that you can really pass, your review will be worth afterwards. You will see the difference in your action when you believe or not.

Overcoming your fear will help to remove your self-defeating belief. This is not an easy thing just like a habit that you want to avoid. Practice and look for help. You can do it alone but it will be more luck with the help of others. They can give you more motivation and inspiration to overcame your fear and change your self-defeating belief to challenging triumph moment.

anger management

Worries must be short circuit because it will only make you feel uncomfortable. It will continue to attract bad luck and it must be stop. We can stop it by changing our thinking. We can try to change our moods the way we see or feel things. We can always alter our reaction gradually.

Study and understand your situations before we give reaction and it will be more effective. Relax before we think and decide on every complicated situation.

I remember when I failed to short circuit my reaction and I know it happens to you too when you can’t avoid to laugh.

Hold your anger as much as possible and relax, think just before we react to lead us in positive luck.

Ask knowing and believing that you can hope or have it is important. How can you ask for something that you can’t trust or hope for? It’s waste of time to convince yourself that it will happen even if you have a doubt. It can be once in a blue moon. Believing 100 percent it can’t be an assurance. So why give a doubt on the things that you want when you know that you can have it.

It is better to forget things that you want when at the same time you don’t believed to have it.

It is also applies to the law of attractions. You attract what you want and your thought become things.

Magnetic Attraction Diagram

This diagram can explain the scenario from the things we ask or want.

How asking will works? transform, reflection, expectation, attraction

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What can I say about “take your lunch?” We literally take a lunch to keep our body healthy but “Don’t Worry, Make Money” means how will you take your lunch. Will you spend much time and money or find a way to take your lunch wisely.
This topic gives example of minimizing your expenses not just in having lunch but in any aspect of spending money. The book said that if you can save $5 in every meal because of bringing prepared lunch from home will give you $100 savings in 20 days.
Take note, this can be applied in other way. Instead of riding a taxi cab, walk if it’s just 5 or 10 minutes walk away. Its an opportunity to get an exercise if you still have much time before your appointment. This is good habit that a extra ordinary people do. It can make a difference in the long terms.
I remember when my mother use to prepare me a lunch pack every morning, it’s not because she’s saving money in the future but honestly we don’t really have much. I feel thankful for it was the time I started to develop good habit delaying gratifications.

Who would believe that bringing your lunch to work could be such a profitable thing to do?

We must learn to be a little patient; it’s worth the wait. The simple act of admitting that you don’t know an answer, at present, activates your inner wisdom and guidance.”